Choose the Right Career at Any Age Or Suffer the Consequences

Choose the Right Career at Any Age Or Suffer the ConsequencesChoose the Right Career at Any Age Or Suffer the ConsequencesHow do you get a job that does mora than just pay the bills? According to Wendy Nolin, business and career coach at Change Agent Careers, the secret is not listening to your friends and family.We are encouraged to choose careers by people who observe our surface strengths but dont take into account our values and what is truly important to us, said Nolin. This makes us choose a career and try to wrap ourselves around it until we discover it does not match who we really are.Christy Robb, a career and lifestyle coach, sees many older people who have suffered the consequences of not doing what they wanted to and are then laid off in their 50s after 20-30 years at the same company.They are seeing that the sacrifices they made in the name of staying with a good company are schwefellost in todays workplace, said Robb.Employee loyalty does not guarantee employer loyalty, and Robb said that older people are now seizing back their lives, taking more risks, starting their own companies, living a fuller life and not waiting for an eventual payoff from somewhere else.Nolin often works with clients in their 40s who have come into a greater level of self-awareness of who they are at their core. In the age of self-help gurus such as Tony Robbins and Oprah, we are now being given permission as a society to do what makes us happy.Younger people are absorbing this message, said Robb.I am seeing young people intelligently observing what happened to their parents and placing more emphasis on a well-rounded life, rather than chasing some ultimate out-there-somewhere career height that may not really exist, said Robb.Survey data agrees. Simply Hireds recent job seeker survey reported that 74 percent of Americans believe that the right job is out there for everyone. Young adults are more likely to share this belief respondents aged 18-24 were 21 percent more likel y than those aged 55+ to agree with that statement.However, the younger group was also 50 percent more likely than the older group to say, I only work at my current job for the money. If so, many young adults are not fulfilled by their work. Will they end up falling into their parents footsteps by waking up at age 50 and realizing they made the wrong choice?Nolin recommends working with trained career counselors early on in ones career.Friends and family may be unintentionally passing on potentially damaging suggestions, she said.The current marketplace demands letting go of the idea of the perfect career.Todays workers have shifted their attitudes in response to the changes in the marketplace like layoffs, lack of employer loyalty, and the growth in contract jobs, said Robb.No matter what your age, the perfect job is the one in which you can find synergy between what you are good at and what you enjoy.Its never too late, said Nolin, but it takes time and a willingness to explore an d take risks.

Navy Buddy Enlistment Program

Navy Buddy Enlistment ProgramNavy Buddy Enlistment ProgramThe Navy Buddy Enlistment Program provides for the enlistment of small groups of not more than four male individuals or four female individuals who wish to remain together for as long as possible during their enlistment. The program should be conducive to stimulating enlistments among high school graduates and others from a local areaand assists enlistees during the transition period of adjustment from civilian status to military status. The length of mutual assignment is determined by the respective category in which each individual is enlisting. Individuals within a buddy group must all be assigned to the saatkorn category. Mixing categories within a buddy group are not authorized. A mutual assignment is made in only one of two categories Recruit training onlyRecruit training and assignment to anfangsbuchstabe duty station Buddies Through Recruit Training Only Enlistment in this category is restricted only in that all in dividuals start recruit training on the same date. Any mixture of enlistment programs is authorized. Recruiters should make clear that recruit training is for approximately 8 weeks and does not include subsequent apprenticeship training. Because of distribution and assignment constraints, women are eligible for this category only. Buddies Through Recruit Training and Assignment to Initial Duty Station Women are not eligible for this category. All applicants enlisting in this category must be enlisted in the Seaman/Airman/Fireman Program and within the same apprenticeship except as indicated below. Applicants must be enlisting in the same branch and class of the Navy (Example All USN or all USNR.) Buddy groups may consist of Seaman and Fireman apprenticeships only (that is, no Airman apprenticeship may be enlisted Buddy with anyone in the Seaman or Fireman apprenticeships for assignment to anfangsbuchstabe duty station). Seaman and Fireman in a buddy group may not undergo apprent iceship training together, although they will receive orders to the same initial duty station.Airman apprenticeship buddy groups may consist of Airman apprenticeships only.No expressed or implied guarantee may be made that buddies will not be separated by transfers after reporting to their initial duty station. Restrictions on the Buddy Program No buddy group may consist of more than four individuals.No buddy group may consist of more than two individuals when assignment to initial duty station is guaranteed.All members of anyone buddy group must be enlisted on the same day at the same Military Entrance Processing Station (MEPS) and arrive at the same RTC together.Applicants enlisting under the Subfarer option will not be permitted to enlist under the Buddy Program for guaranteed assignment to an initial duty station. They may, however, undergo recruit training together. Because recruit companies are all-male and all-female, buddy groups must be all- male or all-female. Sepa ration by Extenuating Circumstances All applicants enlisting under this program are assigned to the same recruitcompany and initial duty station as guaranteed by this program. However, recruiters must explain to all who enlist in the Buddy Program that extenuating circumstances may require that they separate during or after, the recruit training period because of Sickness or other medical reasons.Failure to show satisfactory progress in recruit training or apprenticeship training.Failure of one or more of the group to meet the minimum requirements for regular recruit training or apprenticeship training.Change in the coastof choice by any member of the buddy group.Failure to meet minimum water survival qualifications.Acceptance in another program that requires a different flow of duty assignment between completion of recruit training and first duty station (for example, if member enlists in the Seaman/Airman/Fireman and Buddy Programs for guaranteed assignment to initial duty statio n and subsequently elects to extend his enlistment during recruit classification to be eligible for assignment to Class A School). Request of any member of a buddy group to be dropped from the buddy group. Guarantees remain in effect for the other members of that particular group of buddies.Other circumstances resulting in a delay during or after recruit training. InadvertentSeparation Occasionally, administrative errors may result ininadvertentgestaffelte anordnung of Buddies. To prevent such situations, recruiters should counsel all applicants enlisted in the Buddy Program concerning action to take when a recruit believes he or she has been wrongfully separated from his or her buddies. Such counseling should include The importance of reporting to the Liaison Petty Officer as soon as possible after arriving at RTC the fact that of being separated from his or her buddies.That in cases of different assignments to recruit companies the recruit should notify the receiving officer.T hat is thecaseof receiving orders to different duty stations the recruit should notify his or her Company Commander. Information derived from the Navy Recruiting Manual (OPNAV 1130.8F)

How to be an awesome perfectionist and teach others

How to be an awesome perfectionist and teach othersHow to be an awesome perfectionist and teach othersWhen I was young, I was a competitive and scholastic student. My goal was to get an A in every class, both in high school and college. Id drop a class if it looked as though I wouldnt get an A. In the end, it was my statistics grade that took me down a notch and taught me theres no such thing as perfection.Thanks to statistics, I did not graduate with a 4.0-grade average. However, for years I still pursued my quest for perfection, only by then, it had spilled into other areas of my life. The perfect hostess, impeccable dresser, superb cook, successful professional, excellent- well, you get the idea.Follow Ladders on FlipboardFollow Ladders magazines on Flipboard covering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfaction, Neuroscience, and moraIn the continual pursuit of perfection, I set high goals and beat myself up when I failed to meet the mark. The verbal attacks Ive unleashed upon mysel f would be categorized as emotional abuse if they were inflicted by a parentPerfectionists can be counted on to get a job done and on time. They have an incredible work ethic and have what it takes to perform so they approach challenges with gusto. If left unchecked, however, a perfectionist can produce toxic behavior and negative messages in their relentless pursuit of excellence.Leaders and entrepreneurs strive to achieve excellence for many reasons. Perfection is seductive because it hints at the promised land however, its more about the ideal than the real when leaders let it sabotage their business and life.The good news is that with the right mindset, there are ways we can leverage our perfectionist tendencies to produce a healthy and balanced approach to business and life. Heres how to be an awesome perfectionist1. Strive for competency in one or two areasNever confuse confuse perfection with competency. No one expects you to be perfect they do expect you to be competent. Whe n you lead from a distribution policy of competence, you lead from a place of strength.If youre a perfectionist, you drive yourself to excel but here is how you can be awesome instead of driven- choose a few areas in which you need to excel and hone your talents there.Its hard for a perfectionist to be content with less than ideal because youre unfamiliar with a term that others find quite acceptable- and its calledgood enough. As a perfectionist, you have an all-or-nothing approach to everything. To be an awesome perfectionist, you need to balance the pursuit of perfect in all things with the need to excel in the fewer, more important things.How To Make It Work For You Remember you dont need to be perfect ineverythingyou do in life. Choose tasks that are worth the effort and put your perfectionist traits to work on them- and then go for it Over time those tasks may shift so youll need to re-evaluate where you are in business and life on a regular basis.2. Discover that rest is not a four letter wordDowntime and rest are seldom experienced by perfectionists because they always seek to improve their situation. As a result, they often forfeit rest and view it as a four letter word. By their very nature, perfectionists want each day to be productive because they dont want to be seen as lazy. To them, lazy is another four letter word.When you allow yourself to take time off, you shed the stress that you put on yourself to always perform. In astudy by the Journal of Health Psychology, 450 participants were followed over a period of 6.5 years. Consistent with their hypothesis, the findings demonstrated that risk of death was significantly greater for high scorers in perfectionism.How To Make It Work For You Set aside time to play and explore. For many, self-care is a low priority. So are strong relationships because they require important time away from the relentless pursuit of perfection. To be an awesome perfectionist, use a time of rest to 1) revisit your values and 2) reflect on how you can nurture the relationships that are important to you. Most important- take the time to celebrate your successes3. Share your awesome work ethic with othersIn other words, delegate. This is hard for perfectionists because it means the end product may not turn out the way you want but two things happen First, the work will get done and it wont be the disaster that youve anticipated. Second, you place yourself in a situation where you can share your work standard with others.Over time, your tendency to intervene will lessen but its important that you dont hover over the other person and point out their mistakes.How To Make It Work For You To be an awesome perfectionist, let others observe how you excel at the critical aspects of your job but settle into agood enoughattitude at the less important ones (youve implemented tip 1, right?). When you give others the opportunity to perform, it shows that you trust them and that you think theyre capable.4. Change t he way you talk to yourselfThe need for perfection is deeply embedded in a personality type that feels compelled to keep moving toward goals with a high level of integrity. Some are are trained to believe perfection will take them to a high level of success. totenstill others try to quiet a strong inner critic.Our personalities develop in childhood and often its productive to get at the root of why and when we think the way we do.How To Make It Work For You You can be an awesome perfectionist if you understand the need behind your desire to excel. Ask yourself these questionsIs my need for perfection driven by my need for others to love me?Or do I perform so that others will see me as a success?Is it important that others see that I know the right way to do things?Do I want to beat others because I want to be a leader?Or because Ive done the research and know how things need to work?There is no right or wrong answer to these questions but the answers can give you a better understand ing of your motives. Once you understand your motivation, you can choose how to respond to a situation rather than let your emotions react in ways that can sabotage you. The more self-knowledge you have, the more control you have over your behavior.5. Take a break from social mediaSage Journalrecently conducted a large study on perfectionism and found that it has increased substantially over the past 25 years and that it affects both men and women in equal part.Much of the blame is placed on social media posts that project unrealistic perfect lives through glossy advertisements and unattainable standards of perfection. While men are also affected, social media is filled withunrealistic media images of young womenthat has negatively impacted body image.How To Make It Work For You To be an awesome perfectionist, you need to let go of the fantasy. profilloser reifen advertising has been around for decades but its become more pervasive and more extreme. Perfectionists are smart and they know what works for them, so take some time to rest (remember tip 2?) and jettison social media at regular intervals. Its a great way to keep sane from the noise of the rest of the world.This article originally appeared on LaRae Quy.You might also enjoyNew neuroscience reveals 4 rituals that will make you happyStrangers know your social class in the first seven words you say, study finds10 lessons from Benjamin Franklins daily schedule that will double your productivityThe worst mistakes you can make in an interview, according to 12 CEOs10 habits of mentally strong people